The article highlights a mind-boggling phenomenon I’ve been sitting on the edges of for the last four years: the mommy competition wars. According to the article (and, I must admit, my own personal observations/experience), the newest debate about how children are raised best is no longer centered between stay-at-home moms and working moms, but between stay-at-home moms.
They fall into two camps: Alpha moms and Slacker Moms. So who are these people? The Alpha moms are:
. . . a marketing creation, the Super Mom of yesteryear with a few new twists. Alphas are educated, can-do types whose organizational skills bring a corporate mentality to their parenting and a technological agility to their problem-solving. These high achievers will often surf the Web and blogs for advice. They've also gotten plenty of media attention.And the Slackers? They are much more laid back. Read on:
Those moms have it together sometimes. They may forget to send back permission slips or lose track of their turn for team snacks.And (from the article’s sidebar):
Oh, that is so me. I’ve done all of these--except it's holiday school parties instead of bake sales (and I leave the plastic wrap on) and I used safety pins instead of staples. Heh.
Ren Syler, author of Good-Enough Mother, says you know the "good enough" label fits when you have:
• Bought something from the grocery store, removed the plastic wrapping and passed it off as your own at the school bake sale.
• Used a stapler to hem your daughter's pants as she's walking out the door for school.
The best lines in the article? Here you go:
"Our children are people — not projects," says Syler, 44, of Westchester County, N.Y. "Motherhood is not a contest."And:
"There's an illusion that you can control who your child will become if you do all the right things, but that's a problematic illusion because parenting is about discovering who your child is and fostering their growth and development as an individual."Funny thing is, I think these statements could be just as easily applied to how we live when we’re in the Kingdom. People aren’t projects—and working with God in bringing his Kingdom to each other (“evangelism”) isn’t a contest. We can’t control who others will become, but we can be genuinely interested in discovering who they are. We can help each other grow as we walk with each other as we walk with Jesus.
Or maybe I’m just trying to find a way to excuse my slackerly way of mothering, heh.
(Image: via Wikipedia, mother and child relief sculpture, Soldier Field, Chicago; image licensed under Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 License)